Note To Self

when a friend asks for my help

it may not be because they expect me to have the answer

but because I’m someone they can trust with their request

more than they want me to solve their question

my friend wants to be heard

I can demonstrate my humility by listening patiently

don’t jump in to fix it

I need to press pause on whatever analysis, experience and wisdom I think I can offer

and just show that I care

make understanding their question

more important than having the answer

encourage them to clarify their ask

and allow the solution to bring itself into focus

lead gently

create space to share understanding and insight

resist instructing

and instead learn and succeed together

 

 

MC. Monday May 8, 2017

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